This post was written by a 20-year-old Cal State Channel Islands student in April 2015.
I myself first began to experiment in the party scene during my freshman year of high school. A friend of mine (I will refer to her as Sally for her privacy) had her first party after our first homecoming dance. Her house was full of at least fifty underage drinkers and her parents had no problem with this. In fact, her mom encouraged that we stay and drink there rather than go out.
The following Monday at school everyone praised Sally; she was the new cool kid on campus. Sally continued to throw parties not only because they were fun but due to the respect and attention she was receiving. Everyone knew Sally, everyone wanted to be friends with Sally, guys wanted to date Sally, and upper classmen were nice to Sally, she for a while was living the good life. A few months went by, party after party, each bigger than the last. Half way through the school year, Sally had her biggest party yet.
The party was crazy, music blasting, people yelling, kids outside, kids in the street, people driving under the influence, everything imaginable! The noise began to anger the neighbors because at about midnight there was a knock on the door. No one heard the knock but the students by the door saw policemen through the front door window. In similar situations I have seen parents pretend they had no idea, they hide in their room to feel and appear not at fault.
Sally’s mom was ignorant enough to not only not pretend that she did not care, but to party with us! Sally’s mom opened her door to the policemen while she herself was beligerent and surrounded by underage drinkers.
Somehow Sally’s mom got away with only a warning, but that night will forever stick with me. I learned from this families mistake that the law is not something to play with. Although her mother was not fined, her mother got a big reality check. She hung the warning on the families’ fridge that stated the next offense would cost almost $2,000. I now respect parents who stand their ground, and students who gain friendships for the right reason.